Love marriage ya arranged marriage

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Scene 1, the twinkle in her eyes, the fragrance in her hair, everything about her is so heady in the courtship days, nothing and nobody would work in place of her. His voice, his looks, his caring touch, heart yearns for it after he is long gone, heart beats in waiting for the day when a meeting is planned, nothing holds her and his attention other than each other’s loving presence and sweet memories. Everything culminates into a sweet climax when they get married, that is the happy ending to an eventful love saga turning into a beginning of a so called 'love marriage'.

Cut to Scene 2, somewhere else, a boy and a girl meets where both their families are present and they are conveniently provided with some time (around 10 minutes may be) to spend with each other, and then they have tea and snacks and dryfrutis , they part ways and give their message either through the family friend who has materialized this meeting or through the broker who has brought this ‘rishta’ that ‘yes’ the boy likes the girl or the girl likes the boy or vice versa and then happens the ‘chat mangni aur pat byah’ because one of the aged relative of the boy or girl wants to see her / his pota/ poti married before they go for their eternal yatra…. And their two minute meeting also culminates into a so called ‘arranged marriage’.

On the day both the marriages are taking place, the heart beat of these couple are like drums beating in some tarzan ka jungle type , one’s out of unbearable excitement and happiness turning into delirium at dreams getting materialized and the other at the thought of (especially the girl) sweating buckets and having truckload of butterflies in her stomach, how is she going to live with a man she has only met twice?? (okay now a days may be 60 times) before marriage, well.. to cut a long story short.. even this culminates into a climax where the couple nervously, but happily, sometimes doubtfully enters into the unknown land of marriagedom – word especially coined for these innocent lambs.. err.. lives… (yes.. yes akin to martyrdom…)

Both the ‘love marriage’ guys and the ‘arranged marriage ‘ guys suffer through the same 'honey moon mania' and then the ‘please give us some private space’ to ‘please give me my space’, to ‘I will be late today’ every evening to ‘why do you keep the wet towel on the bed ‘ to ‘oh God yeh shaadi maine kyun ki’??? so at the end of the day any couple who has ‘loved’ for 10 years and gets married and a couple who gets married and loves for 10 years goes through the same rigmarole of married life, same highs and lows, same love and quarrels, same tiffs and fights and then ends up together,sometimes for the love that holds them together and sometimes for the cute little babies born out of their love…

However, being born an Indian, and a staunch ‘love marriage’ person I would any day advocate a love marriage or a love cum arranged marriage, which is the latest trend, wherein you love someone.. and then you show the person to your parents and they arrange everything and they live happily ever after !!! , well…. I would advise to rather step into a marriage with unbearable excitement and happiness turning into delirium instead of sweating buckets and having truckload of butterflies in one’s dainty stomach…

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Comments

  1. Amruta @ Indiamarks.comAugust 1, 2012 at 4:43 AM

    IMO, The age does matter a lot. Gone are the days when Girls used to marry at age of 18 or 19. Today the scene is different, they usually get married at the age of 25, 26 years. Parents too understand that at this age, if their daughter has chosen someone to be her partner for life, she has something concrete in her mind. She is a grown-up adult capable enough to take her decision.

    May be that's why the trend of Love-cum-arranged marriages is at boom.

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  2. soulsearchingdaysAugust 1, 2012 at 5:17 AM

    Amruta, Welcome here, yes I totally agree with your valid point..:)

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  3. lanAugust 4, 2012 at 7:03 AM

    ss, love cum arranged sounds the best and i like it that it is on the boom:-)

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  4. soulsearchingdaysAugust 13, 2012 at 9:21 PM

    u are right, totally safe and best :)

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  5. UnknownMarch 8, 2015 at 9:35 PM

    Really nice blog posts here given information are true and informative also. Before Find Soulmate either it is love or arrange you have to properly discuss about the marriage with your partner and I think love cum arranged is best.


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